The book is about the process we go through as we are alive in this world: It is my favorite book and I revisit it periodically for fresh insights I encourage you to go out and buy it It is the image in the mind that binds us to our lost treasures, but it is the loss that shapes the image.
Our culture shies Necessay losses judith viorst from loss, perhaps for good reason, as death and separation evoke unpleasant feelings.
But Judith Viorst contends that accepting loss as necessary allows us to better appreciate and cope with life's joys and hardships. She extends this message beyond physical death to address other important forms of loss, like the A good book that confronts loss and shows that to enjoy a meaningful life with deep relationships, we must accept grief and loss as emotions worth experiencing.
She extends this message beyond physical death to address other important forms of loss, like the loss of the idealistic expectations we have for our friends, children, and partners. As someone who sees that people often act in certain ways because of a fear of loss, I appreciate how Viorst walks us through several varieties of loss - with separate sections about friends, marriage, death, etc.
I suspect that this book will give people interesting insights into their own behavior and their past relationships, as it did for me. I reduce my star rating because Viorst includes some outdated and heteronormative concepts of gender and attraction.
This happens more toward the beginning of Necessary Losses and got better by the end. It intrigues me to think that I may have given this book a higher rating if I had read it 15 or even 10 years ago, but I feel glad that society has progressed to the point where I can recognize problematic themes in past psychologists' work e.
Viorst approaches some good ideas about gender - such that girls get taught to value relationships more than boys, not that that is biologically ingrained - but does not develop these insights all the way.
Still, I would recommend this book - especially its latter half - to anyone interested in learning about loss and grief. Viorst brought me face to face with the normal required? It was through this book that the concept of "process" became clear to me.
Because we are born to aspire to achievement and recognition we are creatures of hope and when it happens, as it most surely will, that the edifice of our hopes comes crashing in on us we each, in our own time, in our own way and by our own initiative must undertake a Number 3 on my top ten books that most formed my worldview.
Because we are born to aspire to achievement and recognition we are creatures of hope and when it happens, as it most surely will, that the edifice of our hopes comes crashing in on us we each, in our own time, in our own way and by our own initiative must undertake a process to recover from our loss of expectation and hope.
None of us are exempt from this sequence of defeat and recovery, but hopefully, through experience or from this book we can make it more understandable and easier on subesquent occassions.
The author's skill in presenting the normal and expected occurences of loss in our lives is comforting as it is a process that is by its nature very lonely.
I'm sure I have given three or four dozen copies away to friends in need.Judith Viorst (born Judith Stahl, February 2, ) is an American writer, newspaper journalist, and psychoanalysis researcher.
She is known for her humorous observational poetry and for her children's literature. Arguing persuasively that through the loss of our mothers' protection, the loss of the impossible expectations we bring to relationships, the loss of our younger selves, and the loss of our loved ones through separation and death, we gain deeper persepctive, true maturity, and fuller wisdom about life, Judith Viorst has wirtten a life-affirming and life-changing book/5(3).
In her book “Necessary Losses: The Lovers, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow”, Judith Viorst divided friendships to six types. Those are convenience friends, special Interest friends, historical friends, crossroad friends, cross-generation friends and close friends.
From grief and mourning to aging and relationships, poet and Redbook contributor Judith Viorst presents a thoughtful and researched study in this examination of love, loss, and letting go.
Drawing on psychoanalysis, literature, and personal experience, Necessary Losses is a philosophy for understanding and accepting life’s inevitabilities/5.
In Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst Drawing on psychoanalysis, literature, and personal experience, Necessary Losses is a philosophy for understanding and accepting life’s inevitabilities. In Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst turns her considerable talents to a serious and far-reaching subject: how we grow and change through the losses that are /5().
A strong sense of self will help us remain positive in the face of the many physical and psychological losses of old age and to accept life's final loss that is death. Losing, Viorst concludes, is.